Prompting Good Behavior
Does your 3 to 6 year old child have a hard time making good decisions?
That’s OK! Often times the Early (3-4) and Basic (5-6) SKILLZ ninjas may find it difficult to follow the rules. The good news is that they are not doing this on purpose. After years of working with this age group and observing the emotional and social stages of development we recognize that every decision they make (Good or Bad) ultimately has a positive intention.
One of the best things a parent and/or coach can do is to set our kids up for success. The way we accomplish this on the mat is by prompting the good behavior we hope to see. By prompting their good behavior we begin to develop a “feel good” pattern when our ninjas do something correct. Here are a few tips you can use at home to prompt good behavior!
Observe your ninja in action:
Observe what decisions or habits your ninja struggles with and the signs related to that behavior. Choose 1 or 2 specific areas that you want them to improve upon. This could be something like remembering to brush their teeth before they go to bed or putting their toys away when they are finished playing.
Create opportunities for action:
Create opportunities for your ninja to make good decisions. This may require dropping subtle hints to get the ball rolling. The idea is to put them in a position to make a proper decision. For example, after finishing dinner you can say “Can you show me where to put my plate since we are done eating?”
Reward their action:
Timing is everything! After you create an opportunity for your ninja, and they make a proper decision, reward them. It is even better if you can catch them doing well when they least expect it! Tell them how proud you are that they were able to think it through. Acknowledge that they did something fantastic and give them a big hug or high-five.
Lastly, helping our ninjas develop good decision-making skills is a process. They will undoubtedly need many hints and lots of repetition before it becomes habit. Always be on the lookout for good behavior and reinforce it daily.
But what happens if they choose poorly? Let them know! But don’t yell or punish. Instead, chat with them about why it was the wrong choice, and give them an opportunity to come up with a better choice that they could make next time they are faced with a similar situation.
Our most important tools are the knowledge that SKILLZ provides regarding the stages of development for our youth and our ability to prompt good behavior. These two tools combined help us to guide our ninjas and keep them going in the right direction. We hope you found this helpful; if you have any questions, feel free to ask us anytime!
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